Part of the human experience, part of the completeness of life, is to accept the light and the dark sides. Our perfections and imperfections. Together, they open up the human experience.   --Mark Romero

Check Mark out on YouTube.

As Mark eloquently points out, the human experience is about accepting the light and the dark in life and in ourselves. Fully opening up in our lives means loving and accepting all parts of us, both the parts that are easy to love and the parts that are more challenging to love.

Fully blossoming in our lives means truly loving all of who we are.

The idea of self-love can send some of us running away. When I first heard about it years ago, I wanted nothing to do with it!

Do you love yourself? I mean, do you really love yourself?

Could you say, “I love you, [insert your full name here]” in the mirror without wincing, feeling shy or embarrassed, or making sure no one was listening?

If so, kudos to you. That’s truly awesome.

If not, why? Really think about why you can’t do it or don’t like it.

Could you be okay loving all of yourself, if I told you that your uncomfortable feelings are okay?

Mary Knebel, a coach and recent ebook author, posted this exercise on self-love in her blog earlier this year. I think she does a great job walking us through how to learn to feel more love and acceptance for ourselves.

Another, very awesome coach, Jeannette Maw, talks about self love in a blog post from 2007.

(Both Jeannette and Mary have great ebook offerings on self-love. You can find them on their websites.)

Self-love is not about loving only the parts of us we think are perfect. It is about accepting our dark sides and our light sides.

There can not be light without darkness. And there can not be darkness without light.